Even a single life is not single as such. You are bound to have people in your life, directly or indirectly. So, how far can we let these ‘people’ affect our lives? Well, you may say, those who matter can not be ignored. True! But, what if they matter and push you to the point where you are either battling with your guilt of putting their account on hold till you know how to deal with them or they realize how they are supposed to behave or you just tell yourself clearly that they are not worth of ruining the peace of you life.
What would you prefer to do? Would you like to act saintly and continue tolerating their un-fair, in-sane attitude or would choose to live your way, peacefully? Do you count it wise to continue ignoring ill treatment and having a bigger heart for those who are adamant not to change their rigid ways?
Do we have right to define our own life the way it keeps us happy and sane? If these troublesome people are happy the way they are, are you supposed to feel guilty for not being forgiving everytime? Shall we sometimes try to give them a chance to mend their ways by not being too good and too kind?
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Asslam alakium sister nishaat,
I think we’ve all been in that position before and its truly difficult to decide how to behave with the people you’ve described.
I believe the correct way to behave would be to look at someone who is an example for us, and for us it should be our beloved Nabi , prophet Mohammed sws. Off course we can never reach the level of our Nabi’s forgiveness or kindness , however he is our source , he is our example. The more we try to implement his doings in our life the more peaceful our life would become without us trying.
Thought provoking writing, keep them coming ,I love reading them.
In my experience, I feel that some people really ask for it. They deserve a backlash against all the things that they’re putting us through. It does get frustrating at times and I have felt the need to vent out my frustration. Letting the anger out has never really helped. Letting it go is what really closes the matter at hand.
You see, we are not like them. The world has produced so many people of different strengths and different characteristics. Some can dish it out while others can take it. Some were meant to be uncouth whilst the rest of us were meant to have patience… for the sake of others.
Pushing them away has never REALLY been an option for some of us. You see, we’re too kind to them and they find a way back in our thoughts and lives. Venting out the anger and frustration has never led to anything productive. It only serves to hurt us because we’re not the type of people who enjoy doing that.
The only solution that I have found to this dilemma is to push those people away for a while. It’s good to take a break from the negativity. It’s good to go back to things one enjoys doing! Even being with similar-minded people for a few minutes can help us locate our sanity and inner peace. Ah, inner peace; it’s what matters most in the world and taking a break from the world lets us find it.